Murrell Cork Funerals

The Death of a Loved One

The death of a loved one is an experience we may all have to cope with at some time in our lives. Our reaction to this will vary from person to person. Initial shock at the loss is often described as numbness, a sense of disbelief; sometimes the fact of death and the meaning of loss may be denied by those bereaved. Don't try to block your feelings, you may feel anger, guilt, shock or disbelief, your feelings may change or vary, and coping with everyday things can be difficult. Grief and mourning are there for a reason, they are the beginning of the healing road we all need to travel, we are not meant to live with perpetual grief, it will serve it's purpose and then move gently on, leaving you with the things that matter, the thoughts and the memories of the one you love.

If you know of someone who has been bereaved, do not ignore them, treat them as you always have, and when you feel the time is right, include them into social functions by telling them that you want them to come and not just that you'll be there if they need you. By saying that you want them, can make all the difference.

Don't ...

• hide your feelings.
• let family or friends hurry you into making decisions until you are ready - such as clearing your partners belongings before you are ready to face this task yourself.
• enter into financial arrangements you don't understand.
• turn to drugs, alcohol or smoke to excess.
• neglect yourself.
• move home while you are still grieving, you will need time to adjust and time to think.

Do ...

• tell people how you feel, talk to your family and friends, this will help to raise your confidence.
• take care of yourself - eat properly and rest - consult your doctor if you have a health worry.
• keep up your contacts - writing to family and friends will help you through.
• make sure your home is secure - make a will so that others will know your own wishes.